The Clarity Sessions

The conversations have reminded me that relationships are complex and that no one has it all figured out. This isn’t an easy decision, and I’m not sure there will ever be a clear “right” answer for me. But through this process, I’ve learned something important: no matter what happens, I have myself and I am strong.

I was nervous about joining the group coaching calls at first. But I’ve come to really value the experience, the sense of community, and connecting with other women. Hearing others open up about their own relationship struggles has been incredibly validating. I’ve never had a space before to connect with people who are also unsure about what to do in their relationships.

Why wouldn’t you want clarity? That’s exactly what I feel like I’ve needed through this entire struggle. Sure clarity might bring a hard decision, but is it any harder than the struggle of not having clarity? Why be in the perpetual cycle of conflicting thoughts that weigh you down? Putting in the work to stop the cycle of conflicting thoughts is hard. It’s not easy. But it’s a lot easier easier than carrying the weight of those thoughts. You can start breaking them down to make it lighter.

For group calls I love that you engage all of us in the discussion. It’s also been very helpful to see other members at different stages in their process and different goals. It helps put things in perspective when you have a group weighing in that has no bias to your relationship. It’s similar to chatting with a group of friends, but we’re all going through something similar.

I joined this community with the idea that I was going to just watch the video lessons and never join in on the group calls, after listening to the recording of the first call I knew I had to prioritize the group calls. It has been invaluable hearing from other women that are in similar situations and having the same thoughts as me. Although I love the video trainings, the group calls have by far been the most beneficial part of this group. I've noticed that I've found my voice a lot more since joining this group and am less afraid of acknowledging my needs. Someone said in one of the group calls how they're afraid of how "uncomfortable it will be to leave but then reflected and stated, 'but I'm not comfortable now either'" which has stuck with me so much since that day. This group has helped me find so much clarity already and we still have several weeks to go. Very thankful for Ella and the ladies I have met in this community <3

I really enjoyed the clarity sessions ... even after the first few activities it became much clearer on why I was in the relationship and that the ‘issues’ we were having were thing that could be worked on by improving our communication and other things rather than complete deal breakers. There is definitely still work to do to get back to the place of ‘I am so in love with this person’ but I’m positive we can get there ☺️